Friday, July 27, 2012

10 Lessons Learned From 10 Years of Marriage

Today is our tenth wedding anniversary! Nothing special planned, but that's just how we roll.I wanted to include a picture of our wedding, but am unable to use my scanner, so we'll have to settle for a generic from google images. Anyway, I've been reflecting on these past ten years and here are some highlights of what I have gleaned:

10. The whole toilet seat up or down thing? Yeah, SOOOO doesn't matter!

9.  You know how they say not to go to bed angry? Well, sometimes, you need to just sleep on it and resume the "discussion" when you both have a clearer head.

8. You don't want him comparing you to his mother, so don't compare him to your father. Just like you might not appreciate being told to "ask how Mom makes her biscuits", don't tell him "Daddy does it this way". Sure, a mature person wants the advice and wisdom of others....but most don't want to be told they need it. It's just that simple.

7. After working all day, he needs some time to unwind...not another list of things to do as soon as he hits the door. Likewise, make sure you get some time to relax and do what you enjoy or resentment will set up.

6. Apparently, the ability to shoot and skin a deer does not qualify even the toughest of country boys to change a muddy diaper. At least that's what he claims. ;)

5. Marriage is not 50/50. It requires 100% effort on both parts. This doesn't always happen, but make the effort on your end.

4. Men need to feel respected and needed. Women need to feel loved and appreciated.

3. No good ever comes from nagging. Even if he gives in and appeases your fit, you will find yourself losing respect for him over time which only perpetuates the cycle.

2. A home that is respectful, peaceful and a haven from the stresses of the world beats a glamorous vacation any day.

1.Always remember there are three people in your marriage, and I am not talking about your mother.  If you keep Jesus at the center and as Lord of your marriage, lesson #2 will be possible.


  1. Amen! We recently celebrated our 12th. You hit the nail on the head! I have a quandry though - my husband WANTS me to nag him! Gah! I hate nagging! He says that he needs that!

  2. I couldn't agree more! My hubby and I will be celebrating our 12th year of marriage together next week. Happy Anniversary!

  3. Happy Anniversary! A decade is def. worth celebrating!!

  4. Happy anniversary to you both :). More years to come...

    Yes, marriage needs 100% effort from both parties. I also realized that sometimes, you have to sleep on a problem. You don't necessarily have to make up before going to bed. Sometimes, that only makes things worse.

    I found myself nodding on all those ten points :)

  5. Happy Anniversary!! I think #5 is the most important marital advice anyone can give. It is so true. There are incredibly difficult moments, but if you decide to give it 100%, you can make it through anything!!

  6. Marcia... a very Happy Anniversary to you too!!! Great lessons learned and I could not agree with you more with No.1. Our ten year is in March... and this is my second chance at love... the first time around (8 1/2 years) was... well all I can say is that I learned so much from that marriage. Congratulations!!

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