Tuesday, June 26, 2012

Have you asked yourself What If?

Have you ever come to a place where you ask yourself if circumstances had been different, would you still be doing what you are doing with your life? Have you ever wondered, "What if I didn't marry my highschool/college sweetheart? What if I did? What if I had married a lawyer with sights on the Presidency, instead of a simple blue collar worker whose greatest ambition is getting the ultimate whitetail buck? Would my goals, ambitions and passions be different? In short, am I settling for what is?" It reminds me of that Reba McIntyre song, "Is there life out there".

Well, as Hubs and I approach our 10 year wedding anniversary (July 27!), I've been asking myself these questions. After all, I always pictured myself with someone who....well, talks more and has an opinion on important issues. Who likes to learn, think and analyze. Hubs is none of those things.

As it is though, my answer is Yes! I am married to my perfect fit, opposites though we are. We compliment each other. More than that, I am doing exactly what I've always wanted to do...even when I didn't know it was what I wanted. Thinking back, I remember when my paternal grandmother died a month before I turned twelve. That following summer, and many summers after that, I practically lived with my grandfather. {His house shares a farm with my parents', so I wasn't exactly far from home} I LOVED waking up early and having breakfast with him, then cleaning house after he left to work on the farm, preparing lunch and then more of the same. My point is, even as young as 12, I yearned to be a homemaker. There is a sense of fulfillment that I cannot explain. Homemaking also fits nicely with my other passions, reading and writing. My life includes all three. Talk about a boost to one's spirit! Knowing you are doing exactly what you were purposed to do is a real boost and I praise God for it all.

Speaking of homemaking and the like, I thought I'd share an updated pic of this year's garden. It is coming along nicely, and is untouched by pesticides, fertilizers and all other nasty chemicals.


Do you see the two big-leaf bushy plants, between the corn and greenbeans? Well, they are volunteer, which means they came up on their own.  We at first thought they were watermelon.  Now it is obvious they are not. In fact, they aren't even the same crop.

They are two different kinds of squash.  Now that I think about it, I did plant these.....last year!  

What can I say, I am easily amused!

Have a blessed day!


10 comments:

  1. I have these questions lots in my life. I wonder what I would have been like if I would have chosen one college over another or if I didn't decide to form certain friendships. One thing's for certain, I don't think I'd change a thing.

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  2. I've gone down the "what if" road before - always about things like ex-boyfriends *shudder* and things like that. I am so blessed with where God has placed me!

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  3. Marcia... I too LOVE your life!! and love your garden even more!!! My dream garden that is!!! Blessings for a wonderful harvest.

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  4. What a wonderful garden...yep there are times I've gone down the what if road---but I'm thrilled with the path I'm on also, just with for a lil more green($$) but my need are met so I'll stay happy here!!!

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  5. Love this post, we all have those What If questions! Your garden is beautiful, I too have a big garden and am so grateful everyday when I go out to water and see things popping!

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  6. The age old question of what if I'd chosen a different path. I often wonder, would God have led me to where I am now regardless? I believe He would have. My husband is not the outdoorsy, adventurous type like I am. He's perfectly happy watching a movie or reading about the latest technology that he hopes to buy. But, like you mentioned, he and I compliment each other in beautiful ways and he's my best friend too. I can't imagine life without him. I believe He was God's perfect gift for me. So whenever I go down the road of thinking about what if...I remind myself none of that matters. What matters is where I am in this very moment. And no matter how difficult life gets, this very moment is precious and not to be taken for granted.

    Love your beautiful garden. Wow! So cool that stuff from last year is growing on it's own this year. I'd be totally amused by that too!

    Blessings,
    ~Rosann

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  7. I sometimes wonder "what if,"especially about certain things I regret. I've often started to regret moving across country, away from my parents, for what turned out to be a dud of a relationship. But if I hadn't landed where I did, I wouldn't have met my hubby and had my beautiful boys! So I find I can't regret almost any choice I've made, since they led me to where I am today.

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  8. Oh I wonder about those 'what ifs' way too many times! But not regret kinds of what ifs. I just wonder what if I married another guy, what would my life be like? Will my son be cute too? What if my husband and I didn't grt back together when we were still dating, would I be living in the US. Things like that. It gets crazy when I start imagining about this so I just have to stop.

    We're also celebrating our 10th year anniversary this year (Sept) though just as a couple. :D

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  9. Marcia,
    OMG, I just noticed that I didn't comment on your post. I read it, but forgot to leave my comment! Please forgive me! I love this post. You are so right about the "what ifs"...we can't dwell on those. We have made the life that we have and God can bless it and make it just what it's supposed to be!! I'm in awe of your garden! It's beautiful. It makes my little one look pitiful, but I love it!
    Blessings,
    ~Erin

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